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DONT FACE YOUR PROBLEMS ALONE

Fri, 24 Sep 2010 18:54:10 +0530

Problems can appear to be unsolvable. We are social creatures who need to discuss our problems with others, whether it be those who care about us most or those who have faced the same problems we have. When we are alone, problems fester. By sharing we can gain perspective and find solutions.

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

Wed, 22 Sep 2010 16:10:11 +0530

Don’t write yourself off. If you don’t believe in yourself, you won’t be able to function.

Across all ages and all groups, a solid belief in one’s own abilities increases life satisfaction by about 30 per cent, and makes us happier both in our homes and in our work lives.

If you are not sure, guess positively

Mon, 20 Sep 2010 17:32:16 +0530

Unhappy people take a situation in which the are not sure and come to a negative conclusion. For example, if they aren’t certain why another person is being nice, they assume that the person must have some hidden selfish agenda. Happy people take the same situation and guess the positive possibility, that is that the person is really nice.

Happy people and unhappy people explain the world differently. When an unhappy person must interpret the world, eight in ten times he or she will see the negative in an event. When a happy person must interpret the world, eight in ten times he or she will see the positive.

SHARE WITH OTHERS HOW IMPORTANT THEY ARE TO U

Sun, 19 Sep 2010 19:07:59 +0530

Relationships are built on mutual appreciation, and there is no better way to show that appreciation than to tell someone how much you care.

Research on unemployed adults has found that the length of unemployment was far less important to a person’s self esteem than the amount of social support received from parents, family members and friends.

BE OPEN TO NEW IDEAS

Sat, 18 Sep 2010 17:37:16 +0530

Never stop learning and adapting. The world will always be changing. If you limit yourself to what you knew and what you were comfortable with earlier in your life, you will grow increasingly frustrated with your surroundings as you age.

HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS

Thu, 16 Sep 2010 16:18:34 +0530

People who are happy don’t get everything they want, but they want most of what they get. In other words, they rig the game in their favor by choosing to value things that are within their grasp.
People who find themselves dissatisfied in life often set unreachable goals for themselves, setting themselves up to fail. Yet people who set high goals for themselves and reach them are no happier than people who set and reach more modest goals.
Whether you are assessing your position at work or your relationship with your family, don’t begin with fantasy pictures of the world’s richest person of the world’s idea family. Stay with reality and strive to make things better, not perfect.

FRIENDSHIP BEATS MONEY

Tue, 14 Sep 2010 15:51:19 +0530

If you want to know if people are happy, don’t ask them how much money they have in the bank. Don’t ask how large their take-home salary is. Ask them about their friends.

Contrary to the belief that happiness is hard to explain, or that it depends on having great wealth, researchers have identified that core factors in a happy life. The primary components are number of friends, closeness of friends and closeness of family and relationships with co-workers and neighbors. Together these features explain about 70% of personal happiness.

Limit YOURSELF TO ONE SUBJECT BEFORE SLEEPING

Sat, 11 Sep 2010 15:09:32 +0530

Those who have a lot of anxiety let their thoughts shoot around from one subject to another as theu try to go to sleep until, in a matter of minutes, they have created a virtual catalogue of problems. With all these problems, you’ll ask yourself, how can I possibly sleep?

Tonight as you are brushing your teeth, come up with something you’d like to think about when you slip under the covers. If other thoughts start to intrude, guide yourself back to that one subject.

IN studies of college students, shifting between pre sleep thoughts was found to be related to difficulty in sleeping and lower sleep quality, which in turn were related to unhappiness. Better sleepers are 6 % more satisfied with their lives than average sleepers, and 25 % more satisfied than poor sleepers.

REMEMBER WHERE YOU CAME FROM

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 10:45:27 +0530

Think about and celebrate your ethnicity. Often we feel lost in a vast and complex world. There is tremendous comfort in knowing your ethnic heritage. It gives you a history, a sense of place, a uniqueness that remains no matter what else is going on around you.

In studies of students, greater ethnic identity is associated with 10 percent greater life satisfaction.

ACCEPT YOURSELF - UNCONDITIONALLY

Wed, 8 Sep 2010 12:29:45 +0530

You are not just the size of your bank account, the neighborhood you live in, or the type of work you do.You are, just like everyone else, an almost inconceivably complicated mix of abilities and limitations.

In a study of adult self-esteem, researchers found that people who are happy with themselves take defeat and explain it away, treating it as an isolated incident that indicates nothing about their ability. People who are unhappy take defeat and enlarge it, making it stand for who they are and using it to predict the outcome of future life events.